I don’t have boundary issues.
Some people, entities, and organizations have respect issues.
Compassion recognizes that disrespect of another stems from lack of self-respect. Lack of self-respect is an indication of moral injury, spiritual wounds, and emotional trauma.
When someone disrespects another to get their needs met( meet their agenda), that is someone being Forceful, not Powerful.
That’s how we have gotten here.
One force for another.
One disrespect over another.
It’s how we’ve learned to interact with each other. It weakens us in every way.
I accept I cannot actually protect myself by using force. I can’t use the methods of oppression/disrespect to get my way if my agenda is to remain whole, and connected.
Therefore, I commit to developing emotional and spiritual integrity, so that I may have clarity and creativity to seek holistic solutions. To offer respect when I am disrespected. Not because I am too weak to fight, but because I am too power-full to do so.
This takes great practice. We are afraid, aren’t we? Fear of harm leads us to try to be righteous in the meeting of our needs. Then there are those times when force is required. And, we can’t confuse force with power. Force is the left-over option when power has been exhausted. We don’t have much experience with the power of relinquishing, therefore we don’t have much faith in gentleness as power. We may not all even understand what power is.
It is not force, it is not control, it is not getting your way or a specific outcome- it is the application of patience, wisdom, persistence, integrity, Love. It is hearts broken into confetti, still whole. That is power.
We will not be able to use force to protect what needs protecting. We will have to be courageous and confident enough in ourselves to find the gentle way forward. I have faith in Us.
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